DARVO, or Deny Attack Reverse Victim and Offender, is an acronym for how toxic people will often manipulate others if they are confronted about an issue or wrongdoing. If you've ever been in this situation, you may confront an abuser, manipulator, or narcissist about their behavior, and somehow by the end of the conversation, you're the one apologizing to them. This tactic is tricky and deceitful. By learning about DARVO and how it works, you can empower and protect yourself if someone uses this gaslighting technique on you. This talk discusses who is most likely to use DARVO and why, who it targeted and why, how to recognize DARVO, circumstances when DARVO is most used, and impacts of DARVO on the victim and on groups. Then we discuss how to identify, respond to, and protect yourself from this tactic so you can take your power back and live the life God intended for you.
Resources:
DARVO in Wikipedia gives you an overview of DARVO and how it's used.
How Narcissists Use DARVO to Escape Accountability in Narcissistic Abuser Rehab by Manya Wakefield is a web article used in the talk.
What is DARVO Relationship and How Can It Be Resisted? in Marriage.com by Jenni Jacobsen is an article used in the talk.
What is DARVO and How Can It Be Used Against Survivors of Violence is an article by Nicola Health. It contains some helpful videos. While it wasn't directly referenced in the talk, it's another resource that can help you learn about DARVO.
DARVO: Deny Attack Reverse Victim and Offender is an article in Choosing Therapy by Eric Patterson and reviewed by Heidi Moawad is another article consulted and referenced in the talk.
All these articles link you to more resources and can provide more information on DARVO.
Breakdown:
0:00 Intro
2:56 What is DARVO and How Can It Impact Me?
10:54 DARVO in Action
16:45 Who is Most Likely to Be Targeted With DARVO and Why
19:29 How to Recognize DARV
24:02 Circumstances When DARVO is Most Used
25:29 Impacts of DARVO on the Victim/Survivor
30:38 When DARVO Happens at a Group Level
36:02 How to Respond and Protect Yourself From DARVO
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